Anger!

2 nights ago it hit me.. the grief tornado. It comes when you least expect it.

I was MAD! I just wanted Maddie back. I sat in Maddie's room and cried for about an hour praying God would just give her back to me.

These tornado's hurt. They always seem to come when you feel like you are starting to move along in your grief journey then BAM! It hits. They take days to recover from .

So here I am starting to pick up the pieces from my tornado. Luckily last night I had my support group ladies to lean on.


In group we were talking about anger. I always feel like they are great at pin pointing my feelings for that week. So it was a perfect topic!!!

They gave us this poem and I could not of written it better myself.

"Anger"


Don't tell me that you understand,

Don't tell me that you know.

Don't tell me that I will survive,

How I will surely grow.

Don't tell me this is just a test,

That I am truly blessed,

That I am chosen for this task,

Apart from all the rest.

Don't come at me with answers

That can only come from me,

Don't tell me how my grief will pass

That I will soon be free.

Don't stand in pious judgement

Of the bonds I must untie,

Don't tell me how to suffer,

And don't tell me how to cry.

My life is filled with selfishness,

My pain is all I see,

But I need you, I need your love,

Unconditionally.

Accept me in my ups and downs,

I need someone to share,

Just hold my hand and let me cry,

And say, "My friend, I care."

Poem by Joanette Hendel

Telling me (or someone who is going through a loss) that you care and REALLY showing that is the best thing you can do.